Stop Urinary Leakage Naturally with PeriCoach

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Feminine © lynette sheppard

Like a fitbit for your vagina – one of my favorite laugh-out-loud lines from the PeriCoach video. Our friends down under have innovated just that. And it is now available in the US. See more below – be forewarned, this is a funny treatment of a not so funny problem.

It is estimated that as many as 1 in 3 women suffer urinary leakage. Many women start having problems during and post menopause. Laughing, sneezing, exercising and more normal daily activities can result in embarrassing and uncomfortable leakage.

Kegel strengthening exercises have long been recommended to strengthen the vaginal and urinary muscles as a way of combatting this problem. Alas, it seems that many women just aren’t doing them correctly. (One of our own Venuses told us that she’d been performing them for years only to find out she’d been mistaken as to how to effectively do them. She’s a smart, savvy woman, but that doesn’t necessarily make it any easier.

The PeriCoach is a device recently approved by the FDA that can help you do the exercises most effectively. It tracks your progress and gives feedback as you “work out.”

Inserted into your vagina, the device monitors strength and effectiveness of muscle contractions via biosensors. Data is sent via Bluetooth to your smartphone so you (and your health care practitioner) can evaluate how you’re doing. Additionally, the PeriCoach app sends exercise reminders.Now, there is a great use for technology!)

Pericoach is available only with a prescription from a physician, nurse, or physical therapist. Alas, insurance thus far does not cover it. Price is approximately $299.

No more padded underwear or “wet spots”. No more avoidance of sneezing or laughing. We do not have to accept leakage as just a “normal” part of aging.

If you suffer from bladder leakage, you may want to ask your trusted health care practitioner to prescribe it for you. Speaking as a nurse, I have to say that this sounds terrific. If you do try it, please let us know how it works for you. Menopause Goddess Blog is all about women sharing wisdom and real experience. Sharing what works and what doesn’t helps all of us.

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Menopause Goddesses: Be Beautiful Naturally

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Love Potion #9 © lynette sheppard

Lisa Liguori of Simple Beauty Minerals contacted me a couple of months ago to let me know about her company’s mineral makeup and moisturizers. Actually, Simple Beauty has many natural products for face, eyes, lips, and skincare.

She sent me a few samples to try. After two months of using them, all I can say is wow. And it is time for me to reorder. And I need to try some of the other products.

Years ago when I was a sweet young thing, I tried a mineral makeup (powder and blusher) and I liked it fine, as best I can remember. But I went right back to the department store brand I had used previously – probably for no other reason than I happened to be in Macy’s.

These days, I’m a lot pickier about what I use, probably because it matters so much as I age. I don’t want estrogenic substances in my makeup or skin care products, my skin is more sensitive than it was when I was younger, and living in the High Sierra half the year means that all the moisture in my skin is sucked out by the dry mountain air.

Naturally, I was intrigued by the natural minerals and lack of allergens in the Simple Beauty line. I tried three products: a moisturizer, Whipped Olive Oil Creme; a powder, Silk Splendor Finish; and a blusher, Warm Pink Shimmer Cheek Color.

I really like the makeup. It has sun protection, naturally occurring from the minerals. It’s waterproof and anti-acne. It feels so light that it is not like wearing makeup and it looks great.

I LOVE the whipped Olive Oil creme moisturizer. I will admit to using a fairly pricy department store brand prior to this, but I swear that this is better, at a fraction of the price. (I was always a little nervous about what might be in the fancy (ok Lancome) jar, but because I did not want to turn into an apple doll, I kept using it.)

Oh, one more very cool thing – their model photos are NOT photoshopped. Truth in beauty – and I so appreciate that.

You can be sure that I will be trying other products by Simple Beauty. And Lisa was so sweet that she sent me a link for a 20% off coupon for us Menopause Goddesses. Check out their website for more info and testimonials.

Try Before You Buy – and get a 20% off coupon right here: https://simplebeautyminerals.com/mineral-makeup-newsletter-2/

 

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You know, your self esteem is important to us! No photo editing on our models. https://simplebeautyminerals.com/real-beauty/

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New Treatment for Vaginal Atrophy: Mona Lisa Touch

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Prism Heart © lynette sheppard

Vaginal atrophy affects 4 out of 10 women after menopause. (I’m surprised it isn’t more.) We’ve had a number of posts regarding lubricants and other remedies that can help with this often painful condition. Everything from avoiding sexual intimacy to discharge to daily pain unrelated to activity has been a symptom of this all too common malady.

Recently, the FDA approved a laser treatment designed to rejuvenate the lining of the vagina. Now I am always a proponent of the least invasive remedies for any condition. Still, for women who suffer despite HRT, lubricants and the like, this may be life changing.

The treatment involves 3 office visits where the CO2 laser is inserted into the vagina and emits the treatment to the wall to stimulate collagen growth. It is painless and lasts only 5-10 minutes. The only caution is that sexual intimacy be abstained from for 24 – 48 hours after the treatment.

I spoke with Holly, a 49 year old woman who was having symptoms including dryness and itching. After one treatment, she noticed immediate improvement and says that her tissue feels “more full.” Full disclosure: Holly works for Medical Aesthetics of North Dallas, where the procedure was performed.

Holly relates that many of their patients have had worse symptoms than she and have enjoyed relief after the first treatment. Some women prefer this for the convenience factor – not having to mess with creams or gels.

They know of no side effects so far. The treatment has been done in Italy since 2008. It’s pricey – approximately $2700.00 for the series. Alas, insurance does not cover the procedure yet.

It’s good to know such an option is available. Would I do it? No, I don’t mind the inconvenience of vaginal estriol and good lubricants. For me, the least interventional option that gets me the desired result will always be my go to remedy. For those where nothing else works, who cannot take estrogen, or who are really bothered by the creams and gels, this might be a viable possibility.

For more info, check out Medical Aesthetics of North Dallas and this article from Medical Daily.

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Is It True That Tomato Juice Can Ease Menopause?

 

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Enjoy this thought provoking guest blog post by health writer Evlin Simon. I’m off to the store to buy tomato juice?

Is It True That Tomato Juice Can Ease Menopause?

Menopause brings multiple changes to our bodies. While it is a natural stage a woman will undergo, menopause symptoms are unpleasant. It brings hot flushes to the body and irritability. With the right nutritional intake and lifestyle change, menopause can be treated. Women have to undergo this stage in life when they grow older, but they don’t have to suffer the symptoms that come along with it.

You can treat menopause symptoms with tomatoes. Yes, this delicious treat is a very effective menopause treatment. To get the benefits, it would be best to drink its juice than to eat it whole. Drink a glass of tomato juice a day to combat menopause symptoms. According to research conducted at Tokyo Medical University, drinking 200ml of tomato juice twice every day for eight weeks can treat menopause symptoms, lower cholesterol, and manage anxiety.

How the Study Was Done

In the study, 93 women ages 40 to 60 were made to drink tomato juice. By the end of the study, their anxiety, irritability, hot flashes, and other menopausal symptoms halved. The study tracked the women’s cholesterol level, blood pressure, and heart rate. After drinking tomato juice for four weeks, the women who had triglyceride levels higher than 150mg/dL saw a significant decrease to only 70 mg/dL. Their menopausal symptoms dropped to a very low 16%.

Reasons for the Benefits

One of the major reasons why tomatoes can greatly benefit women suffering menopausal symptoms is its high content of bioactive components. One of these is 13-oxo-ODA, a fatty acid that prevents metabolic syndrome. Tomatoes also have esculeoside A, which supports the heart health. Tomatoes have a high content of lycopene, which reduces menopausal stress. The heat activation during the canning process of the tomato juice gives it plenty of antioxidants, which is very beneficial to a person’s health.

According to Los Angeles-based obstetrician and gynecologist Steven A. Rabin, MD, the neurotransmitter gamma-aminobutyric acid, or GABA, is another substance abundant in tomato juice. It helps relieve hot flashes, reduces stress, and treats other menopausal symptoms.

If you buy tomato juice in the market, you might not see these nutritional values on the label. It would be best to buy the unsalted tomato juice, according to one of the leading authors of the study, Masakazu Terauchi Ph.D. It would also be a great idea to add tomato juice to your diet. There will be no side effects to it, and it won’t taste bad.

Tomato has its own type of Estrogen

There has been research in the past about how tomato juice can help relieve menopausal symptoms. Tomato juice has gamma-aminobutyric acid, which has the same effects as estrogen. Taking hormone supplements is one of the most common ways women treat menopausal symptoms. Tomato juice is like a  hormone replacement therapy that helps bring back the lost estrogen that occurs during and after menopause.

Over-the-counter estrogen supplements may help relieve menopausal symptoms, but there may be dangers associated with it. Studies in the past suggest that taking prescription estrogen can lead to higher risk of stroke, heart disease, blood clots, and even breast cancer. Artificial hormone supplements may not be a very good idea, especially as you are growing older.

Why bother with prescription supplements, when you can choose to take in tomato juice? Since tomato juice can give you the natural estrogen hormone benefits you need, it would be ideal to choose it over supplements. Fight menopause naturally with tomato juice.

Other Tomato Benefits

Besides relieving women of menopausal symptoms, the tomato has many other benefits to your health. If you include tomatoes in your lifestyle, here are some of the advantages you can get:

  • Reduces cardiovascular disease and coronary heart disease
  • Rich in vitamin A, vitamin K, B vitamins, vitamin C, iron, magnesium, potassium, zinc, and phosphorous
  • Treats damages caused by smoking
  • Naturally enhances flavours
  • Rich in phytonutrients like flavonones, flavonols, carotenoids, hydroxycinnamic acids, glycosides, and fatty acids derivatives
  • Filled with phenolic compounds
  • Improves digestion and prevents constipation
  • Prevents kidney and gall bladder stones
  • Keeps hair, skin, and bone healthy
  • Strengthens immune system
  • Increases fat burning capacity
  • Restores biochemical balance among people suffering from diabetes
  • Reduces risk for prostate cancer
  • Reduces risk for breast cancer

References:
https://www.consumerhealthdigest.com/health-center/
http://theheartysoul.com/natural-menopause-treatment/

Evlin Symon

Author Bio:
Evlin Symon is an experienced health writer who has been at this for more than 5 Years. She is an expert in health, fitness, weight loss, nutition and beauty. When she is not writing she can be usually found hitting the Gym. Connect with her on Facebook and Google+ .

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Menopausal Superheros

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What if Menopause came with an extra symptom? Say something like superpowers? Now that’s a symptom we might be able to work with. Alas, with great power often comes great responsibility. (Right, as if menopausal women need any more responsibilities.) Still, superpowers could come in handy. Very handy.

Samantha Bryant’s new novel, Going Through The Change,  is a delightful tale of science gone awry. Four women develop unique superpowers using alternative creams or teas created by a menopausal mad scientist. Even the creator of the products enjoys some interesting benefits.

Helen becomes fireproof, just when she learns she can create fire (how’s that for flashing!) Jessica is lighter than air and can fly. Patricia develops a very thick skin, complete with scales. Linda actually turns into a man. And Dr. Liu is younger each day.

Part women’s literature, part comic book, and part scifi, this book is sure to be a fun-filled beach read for all menopausal women. Check it out on Amazon or your favorite retailer.

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My Story of Menopause and the Fifty Decade

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I loved guest writer Inge’s personal menopause story and her inspiring work, culminating in – wait for it – Menopause Retreats in Thailand. I hope you enjoy this post as much as I did. And hey, maybe we will see each other in Thailand.

My Story of Menopause and the Fifty Decade
By Inge Sarathulsingh

My earliest memory of anything to do with menopause was my mum having a hysterectomy in her early 40’s. She must have experienced menopausal symptoms. But nothing, absolutely nothing was talked about, how she was feeling, how it made her feel having had the hysterectomy, what symptoms she was  experiencing and how she was coping. It seemed like a very taboo subject.

My next memory of menopausal women goes back to 1967. I was 14 years old and I was working as a receptionist for a GP. He generally put menopausal women on Vallium, it was just too much for the poor husbands to deal with such neurotic behaviour, so he would say.

Later in my twenties I trained as a physio therapist and worked in Germany’s largest rehabilitation centre.  Again, I got to work with many menopausal 50+ women and again, I was surprised by the amount of stress or emotional pain, they were going through. Later on, I worked in private practice, but the experience was the same:  middle aged women, menopausal and struggling to keep things together.
There was no support for menopausal women whatsoever, on top of what they were going through they were labelled being neurotic. I have no idea how they managed to cope. Still to this day I deeply feel for the women and the incredible struggle they were – and still are going through – completely on their own.

Life continued on, I immigrated to Australia. I also got married and had children, got divorced and I did what we all do, I looked after the family, gave up on my own desires for the best of the family, I served my darling children, I was there for them every step, I cooked and I washed,  just like we women do.

Since I had no recognition of my German physio in Australia, I had re-trained as acupuncturist, thinking acupuncture is more holistic and I could address any symptoms on a deeper level. But I learned soon that wasn’t the case. I was able to help people with their symptoms and make them  feel calmer, but I wasn’t able to address and release the emotional pain that is causing the physical symptoms. Because in the end our physical symptoms are just a message that there is something going on in our hearts, something is hurting us and we need to find out what it is in order to release our symptoms.

Having dealt with so many clients in different professions that is the main point I have come to understand:   It’s the unresolved emotional issues that cause our physical symptoms. Menopausal symptoms are no exception.  Dr. Christine Northrup talks about it in her book:  “The Wisdom of Menopause”.  Dr. Northrup is saying that your body is giving you messages in form of symptoms, if you ignore the messages, your body will intensify the symptoms!  Louise Hay also talks about it in her book: “You Can Heal Your Life”.

But it wasn’t until I hit the fifties that I experienced for myself this extensive emotional distress. Oh my goodness, it was so intense, so incredibly intense. I didn’t experience many menopausal symptoms, but that internal pressure – which is caused by the incredible raise of the reproductive hormones FSH, LH and GnRH.  According to Dr. Christine Northrup author of: “The Wisdom of Menopause”  These hormones surge to their new highest levels ever  and stay that way to drive the changes taking place in the midlife woman’s brain.”

She says that scientific evidence is mounting that the reproductive hormones are driving the changes in our brains.  These changes in our brains give us the drive to go for our needs, go for what we want,  after years and years of service to the family. This drive can be very strong, suppressing it and not following it will eventually lead to physical symptoms. Menopausal symptoms are one of the symptoms that are coming up, cancer, heart problems, digestive problems often arise as well.

For me, the fifties were a very difficult time. It  seemed like all my past experiences were being brought to my attention. I had lots of healing sessions and I searched for a technique or tool that would help to release EMOTIONS, my emotions. I have observed menopausal women struggling for so long,  first my mum, than as a doctor’s receptionist, then as physio,  and lastly as an acupuncturist and now it was my turn –  I was experiencing the intensity first hand!  And I did not like it one bit!

That’s when I found EFT, Emotional Freedom Tapping. I felt the immediate relief after the sessions.  I trained in EFT and I treated friends and clients. I was absolutely impressed how amazing this gently tapping on acupuncture points in the face and on the upper body just releases the issues!  It certainly made the last few years of my fifties so much easier!  And everybody I worked on felt that incredible relief too.

Finally after years and years of searching I found my tool for helping women to release their emotional pain, release all the stored up emotions, the guilt, the shame, release all the physical symptoms AND the menopausal symptoms. I cannot describe in words how much that meant to me and still does. I have watched women suffer for as long as I can think and finally I found a way to help – OMG, talking about being over the moon? Talking about having found my life’s purpose – YES, I have finally found it! I cannot help my mum anymore, as she has moved on, but I can help so many other women!

Over the last few years I have become very experienced in helping women to release their emotional distress, as well as their menopausal symptoms or any other physical symptoms! I absolutely enjoy working with the women and we are having a lot of fun together.  I feel honoured to be sharing this journey with them.
Having talked with so many menopausal  and 50+ women I realised, besides the hot flashes, the night sweats, the broken sleep or whatever symptom they might be experiencing there is one point most of the woman are talking about: the incredible isolation they are feeling.

I had the tools, I had the expertise – there was nothing to stop me from creating a wonderful solution for this problem. In fact it’s been something I had been talking about for many years, so I finally went out and created it. May I present my 4 day

Menopause & Stress Relief Retreat in Thailand
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Menopause Sisters in Retreat

Just  for a moment –  imagine – you are on a beautiful exotic and tropical island, the food is divine, the people are friendly with big smiles and willing to pamper you, all meals are served, you are with a group of like-minded women, your sisters,  sharing your meals,  spending your days talking about yourself and your issues, your symptoms and your problems.  Learning how to identify and release your symptoms and issues.

Together we cry, we laugh and we hug and we love, ourselves and everybody around us!

 

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You are having fun! You are releasing your emotional  issues, you are re-connecting  with yourself, you are reclaiming yourself. You are enjoying the love and the support, the deep connections you are making and the tools you are learning.

In between there is plenty of time for some well deserved relaxation.

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And of course some fun in the sun !

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And some more fun.

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And some time for reflection.

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If you are menopausal and you are struggling with  menopausal symptoms and/or stress in your life, PLEASE do not try and be superwoman and do it all on your own. Superwoman does not exist and you don’t have to try and be one! I would love to support you through this challenging time.

For more info about my retreat, please go to www.embracingyourfifties.com/retreat. The next retreat is schedule for the 21/9/15 – 25/9/15.

For more info about my private coaching programs please go to http://www.embracingyourfifties.com/private-coaching/

To book a free session with me:   https://www.timetrade.com/book/CB2NC
or just email me: embracingyourfifties@gmail.com
Have a joyful day ☺!

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When Hormones Go Wacko

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Feminine Confusion © lynette Sheppard

Genemedics Health Institute shared this  interesting and illuminating infographic on hormone imbalance with us. Enjoy.

When Hormones Go Wacko

About 80 percent of women worldwide experience different kinds of female hormone imbalance. In fact, an estimate of 2.2. billion women age 50 and above are presumed to experience female hormone imbalance by the year 2025.

Although female hormone imbalance may seem like a norm these days, it can still be remedied. With the right knowledge and information, women can live a normal life without having to suffer from the adverse effects of female hormone imbalance.

If you are already suffering from female hormone imbalance, there is a solution. Imbalances can be corrected through simple, natural, and practical ways such as staying active, eating healthy, and undergoing hormone replacement therapy.

You don’t have to be a part of the increasing 80 percent of women experiencing female hormone imbalance. Everything you need to know about female hormone imbalance is readily available for you to read here!

When Hormones Go Wacko - Female Hormone Imbalance

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Recover Your Juiciness In Four Simple Steps

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I love the idea of a midlife midwife – which is exactly what Sirena Pellarolo is! Her guest post explains how she helps women thrive during the transitions of menopause and midlife. She shares four stages of empowerment we can all tap into. Enjoy!

Recover Your Juiciness In Four Simple Steps

by Sirena Pellarolo, PhD

Many of my clients who are going through menopause come to me confused, disempowered and at times, resigned to their lot, as they believe that what they are going through is just a natural part of the aging process. Their low energy levels, digestive issues and sometimes weight gain have them depressed, isolated and lonely.

Is this you? Have you given up and thrown up your arms in despair? If it is, I will guide you in four simple steps to regain your mastery by reconnecting with your body, mind and spirit. As a result, your feelings of frustration, lack of confidence and self-esteem will melt away and you will start experiencing your life on your own terms. My role as a Midlife Midwife is to support midlife women to master their lives, recover their self-confidence and stand in their power; a rebirth of sorts at midlife. I’ve seen clients turn around their lives and feel empowered, vibrantly healthy and energetic, with a renewed zest for life. Take Cheryl’s example.

Cheryl is an entrepreneur who is going through peri-menopause. When she came to me, she was in a family situation where she was perpetuating a codependent role she had picked up from childhood with her own adult children and sister. She had been having a semi-satisfying long distance relationship with a man several decades her elder, who was extremely generous and provided for her every need. In spite of this, she was very reluctant to open up her heart completely to him, as her family drama had her stuck in a no-win situation.

As soon as Cheryl started to pay attention to her diet and exercise routine, she recovered a sense of wellbeing, and as a consequence, other areas of her life became lighter, too. After a not-so-easy break away from the family, she decided to leave the city, move in with her lover and give this relationship a chance.

This decision proved to be the best she could have ever done in her life! As she moved out of the family dynamics, her children and sister found their own sustainability and she is now enjoying the most loving and caring relationship she could have ever dreamt of, in a new community where she feels loved, accepted and supported. She has been able to refocus her business and is thriving as an entrepreneur. I’m so happy for her, as she is an example of how letting go of old dysfunctional patterns and deciding to put ourselves first, transforms our lives in unimaginable ways.

In my work supporting midlife women, I firmly believe in the autonomy and self-reliance we can tap into by creating an environment that promotes a healthy passage when approaching the Change. Our bodies are infinitely intelligent, “physical and emotional health is our natural state, even during this time of transition,” Dr. Northrup reminds us in The Wisdom of Menopause, Creating Physical and Emotional Health During the Change. And she adds against the current prevailing wisdom and the trend toward highly medicalizing this life change, that “perimenopause is a normal process, not a disease” (116).
As a Midlife Midwife I guide, support and encourage you to find within yourself that innate intelligence to move through this time consciously, connected to your inner wisdom and empowered to make the right choices according to your individual needs.

In many of the healing processes I have witnessed, I was able to identify four stages in the recovering of health and vibrancy, and basically, self-power. There is a logical order to these stages, but they are not necessarily chronological, there is a flow, like a spiral flow, where stages at times overlap and at others are repeated, but, for the sake of clarity, I will try to describe each stage separately so that you can understand the characteristics of each one.

The first stage is to reclaim our power that we have given away to messages that come from external sources, like the media, family, or church, in brief, the prevailing wisdom about aging and the expendability of women after fifty. Although aging Baby Boomers are changing this belief system around, we still need to be attentive to not allow these negative messages to become internalized in our psyche as they control our perception of ourselves in disempowering ways. The first necessary step then is to reframe this passage on our own terms, listening to our own truth and unplugging from environmental noise.

The second stage is to release what doesn’t serve us anymore, be it physical, mental, emotional or environmental toxins. The lightness of being that a holistic cleanse of this sort affords us makes space for the new to sweep us up and move us forward, in the direction that our intentions take us. We will thus be able to make more personalized choices in the creation of our own conditions.

The third stage is to activate ourselves with supportive habits towards health. Lighter now from the clean-up, we become energized by putting into motion practices such as a nutrient rich diet, vigorous exercise and a personalized spirituality that will speed up our journey towards the next phase of our lives.

The fourth stage is founded on our courage and readiness to transform. After the requalification of our beings, there is a next step that we need to take if we are willing, which is to become a brighter version of ourselves. When we muster the strength and determination to take that ultimate leap of faith, we will be living on purpose, ready to recover those dreams that we had put in the back burner during our child bearing years. It’s our time now to serve others as we model for them how to transform, creating in that way a ripple effect that eventually will change the world.

As an example of going through this transforming process, these past three months, after uprooting myself from the city I had lived in for twenty-six years, I am fulfilling a dream I’ve had for some time, of traveling through the Americas and writing. I am working on a DIY guide for an empowered and healthy menopause based on the four stages described above. I address the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual transformation with the support of daily exercises and tips.
I have also designed a program, “Four Months Towards an Empowered and Healthy Menopause,” that follows the four stages of healing I cover in my book. If you feel that you –or anyone you know– might benefit from my program, please share this information with them. You will find all the details here:

http://www.sirenapellarolo.com/programs/jumpstart-an-empowered-and-healthy-menopause/

Wishing you the best during the Change,
Sirena, your Midlife Midwife

Sirena Pellarolo, Ph.D.  is an author, speaker and holistic healer. She supports women in their menopause years to recover their juiciness and dive full on into a vibrantly healthy and fulfilled second half of their lives. Sirena believes in a holistic and empowered approach to manage menopause symptoms, specializing in weight management through cleanses, live foods, and emotional detoxing.
A board certified holistic health coach, raw food educator, detox expert, radio host and blogger, Sirena is Professor Emerita of Spanish and Latin American Cultural Studies. She has authored and published numerous articles and two books on Latin American performance and gender studies, globalization and new social movements. Her forthcoming book Recover Your Juiciness: A 30 Day DIY Guide for an Empowered and Healthy Menopause will be out next Fall by Flower of Life Press.
She is a compelling public speaker offering wellness seminars in English and Spanish.

info@sirenapellarolo.com
www.sirenapellarolo.com

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Mid Life – Schmid Life

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Staying Happy in MIdlife © Joe Indovina

I laughed out loud when I read this essay by Joanne Cain – we are blessed that she offered to share it with us. You can read more of her musings on her blog at http://katherinesdaughter.com/

Mid Life – Schmid Life
by Joanne Cain

“Most people don’t grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging.”

― Maya Angelou

I am 57 years old and feel like I am finally coming into accepting this beautiful, whole mid life thing I’ve been going through. I cannot believe at times, how I took my own youth for granted. I also can’t believe the things I worried about in my younger days.

They say youth is wasted on the young and ok, I get it. It would be nice to have a few things back right now, like a smaller waistline. But then I wouldn’t have all this wisdom and maturity I finally get to enjoy.

I can’t lie. It has been hard to accept certain parts of being over 50. Most of all, I can’t believe how naive I was about the changes my body would go through. I’d look at older people and make fun of the sagging skin on their arms or the fact that they couldn’t see or hear. It is pretty humbling when those same things start to happen to you.

I’ve struggled on and off with being ok about the sight and hair changes, the attention and focus issues, and the forgetfulness. Mostly I realize some of those things can happen to anyone at any age. My own 32 year old daughter couldn’t remember her banking PIN number when planning her work conference a few weeks ago. :)

So the thinking I’ve been coming into lately has been one of acceptance. Of loving my body and who I am no matter what. Of accepting who I am and embracing my age. (a mantra really for any age!) That’s why my opening quote is by Maya. She and my mother are really my role models for aging acceptance.

I quit coloring my hair a few years ago. It just got to be too much. Too much upkeep, too much trouble. The temptation to take it back to full on (dyed)color left me after the first year. This was one of the things I felt most strongly about- embracing the changes that were really mine, a part of my aging process. I didn’t take hormones through the change either. I had good role models who encouraged me to hang in there. I got better at deciding what I really needed to be emotionally healthy. I left a job that I loved because the drive was too dang far. For me, I have to do the mental work of healthy attitudes before any kind of physical work (like exercise or a career change) can really take root.

You know me pretty well by now to know that I’m a grace and love kind of person. I want to be the child of God who embraces unconditional love for all people. It doesn’t mean I agree with everyone’s viewpoint. It also doesn’t mean I condone unacceptable behavior when someone isn’t treating me well. It just means that I give others the right to have their viewpoint and I expect them to respect mine. And I love them pure and simple for who they are. This is the attitude I try and embrace every day. Aging and faith have taught me this.

When my silver hair grew out, it came in mostly on the sides of my head. I have darker hair down the middle and pure silver all along the edges. I call the darker part my “racing stripe.” And truly, I mean it.

photo credit: Staying Happy in MidLife! Joanne thanks her buddy Joe Indovina for this pic.

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Getting Your Sexy Back

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Loss of libido, painful intercourse, vaginal dryness and inflammation. All of these are all too common symptoms of the Big M. And they are talked about all too little. Thankfully, the times they are achanging.

The first ever live, webcast discussion event from Vibrant Nation took place on March 31, 2015 about reclaiming sexual intimacy during and after menopause. We were proud to publicize it here. Those of you who saw it know that Dr. Barb Dupree, Vibrant Nation sexual health expert and blogger led a panel of women who shared excellent information about rekindling our sex life. (BTW, for those of you who don’t know, Vibrant Nation is the leading online community for women 45 and older.)

Great news for those of you who missed the event (and for those who’d like a refresher); we now have access to the videos. Free. Here is one of my favorites that deals with maintenance whether or not you have a partner:

Loss of libido and vaginal dryness can really derail a woman’s sex life. I can’t tell you how many letters I receive about this very issue (and the goddesses in our group have certainly had their struggles.) We might believe that this part of our lives is over.

Thankfully, there is now a conversation about these issues and ways to reclaim this vital part of our lives. We can light the spark in the bedroom once again and get our sexy back.

Full disclosure: I am participating in a Vibrant Influencer network campaign for Vibrant Nation. I am receiving a fee for posting; however, the opinions expressed in this post are my own. I am in no way affiliated with Vibrant Nation and do not earn a commission or percent of sales.

You know me, I don’t post it if I don’t truly believe it can help our community of menopause goddesses.

To see the rest of the video segments, click here:    http://bit.ly/1EmiCAb  You can’t afford to miss these.

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