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Don’t Go Through Menopause Alone: Create Your Own Goddess Group

Hibiscus family © lynette sheppard

Hibiscus family © lynette sheppard

With all the wonderful remedies and helps we have found to help us on the Menopause journey, the singular most important one is girlfriends. A group of like-minded, like-afflicted women can share humor, heart, and help with one another. I can’t imagine dealing with the Big M without the goddesses.

On a whim, Theresa-Venus and I asked a group of women to attend a long weekend to discuss Menopause and ultimately the Second Act of our lives. It turned out to be one of the most important things we have ever done. Over 10 years later, and the Venuses still meet annually. We come from all over the country, so once a year is all we can manage with our busy lives. And we share and cover so much that it lasts us an entire year.

If you don’t have girlfriends who are going through the same changes as you are, we urge you to start your own Menopause Goddess Group. And so you don’t have to re-invent the wheel, here is how you do it!

In answer to those who have written wanting to know how to begin their own menopause goddess group, we offer this little nuts-and-bolts guide based on our experience with the Venuses.

Getting The Right Mix
Theresa-Venus and I started by asking one another “Are there any others out there like us, who are wondering just what the @#&* is going on with this crazy time of life?” We subsequently invited women we knew (in turn having them ask one or two of their friends) to join us for a weekend slumber party with a focus.

First, and foremost, we didn’t try to overcontrol the makeup of the group. Whether blessed or naive, we simply trusted that the right women would come together for our first gathering. Naturally, we did avoid asking women who routinely seem to suck the oxygen out of any room they occupy. Thankfully we know few of them. (Although it seems like everyone knows at least one!)

Begin Before The First Gathering
Again, looking back, we see how important it was to start working before we came together initially. We devised and sent out a questionnaire to all our potential attendees, as well as to some women who were interested in the questions for themselves once they heard about what we’d planned. (These women were satellite Venuses and contributed their thoughts and feelings in the spirit of helping us all.) The questionnaire was to be completed and returned prior to our first meeting. It was also meant to weed out anyone who wasn’t serious about working on these issues and questions together. Interestingly enough, no one opted out and most spent a great deal of time and soul searching in their answering.

Theresa-Venus and I also thought that our questionnaire might serve as a focusing tool and general icebreaker when we did come together. Little did we suspect that it would serve as much more. The process of looking at our attitudes and feelings, past and present, fostered a level of self-awareness that propelled Meeting One forward. Our questions and answers also helped inform our group as a whole. Personal information gleaned was as new to each individual goddess as it was to our sisters. Yet universal themes emerged and we knew we were on the right track. For a pdf copy of our questionnaire click the following link:  questionnaire_for_blog.  (Pdf files require Adobe Acrobat Reader. You can download Adobe Acrobat Reader for free – click here.)

Enough for today, goddesses. Stay tuned for part Two in the next blog post. If you have burning questions about starting your own Venus group, comment or write us by clicking on Contact Us on the left side of the homepage.

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Getting Attuned to Menopause Fashion

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I’m always looking for comfortable clothing that doesn’t look dowdy and grannyesque. I’ve found some great stuff at J. Jill and love Not Your Daughter’s Jeans. I doubt I could rest as well without my wicking sleepwear. I’m still looking for a bra that simulates the soft cotton of our training bras (with a lot more support, of course.) That may be an impossibility, but I can dream can’t I?

With Menopause fashion in mind, please enjoy our latest guest blog post reprinted from our fashionable friends at Attune. They specialize in a variety of clothing styles for the Menopause Goddess. Based in the UK, they will soon be offering international shipping. So visit their site and bookmark it for future visits.

The M Word (reprinted with permission)
I think it’s time, don’t you?

Time for us to stop dancing around the subject.  Time to stop using wonderful euphemisms about temperature control and getting ‘hot under the collar’.

We know that Attune clothes are great under any circumstances – I would have loved to have been wearing them when I worked in a new, classy, glass-fronted office. I was leaving a (very) cold house to commute to a city some distance away and then walk for a mile (which warmed me up considerably) to sit at my desk in an  air-conditioned office (think pleasantly chilled) only to have my temperature race when the sun – on one of its occasional outings – shone brightly on our floor-to-ceiling windows. Attune would have been perfect for such occasions.

But we have skirted around the most obvious advantage to wearing Attune clothes. When I have described the Attune collection to other women, they instantly know what I am talking about.  One colleague said “oh, I see, clothes for when you are ‘having a moment’”.  So I am outing us – these clothes are perfect for when you are a having a menopause moment. A hot flush. Or, as one US blogger has put it, when it’s all gone a bit peri como.

It’s not just time that we revealed our identity. It’s also time that you – as successful, busy women – have clothes that can help you keep on living those great lives. Clothes that will help you cool down quickly without feeling rebound chilliness, clothes that will dry quickly if you have experienced a hot flush, and clothes that stay fresh so that you don’t feel self-conscious. Clothes that actually do what we say they can do.

And the good news is that our range is expanding quickly. Keep an eye out for new products coming soon – dresses are next, but we won’t be stopping there. It’s all getting a little bit exciting.

Visit Attune here.

 

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Hot Flash Humor: A Male Perspective

Halema`uma`u Volcanic Vent

Halema`uma`u Volcanic Vent

I’ve been getting more and more mail from men who are accompanying their mates on the Menopause journey. The latest note from James Lawson cracked me up. He has graciously given me permission to post his blog entry about hot flashes from a man’s point of view. You can visit his blog here: Uniting People, through motivation, inspiration, and humor.

She Might Be Having A Hot Flash!

My wife has been having hot flashes for over 8 years now, and believe me we’ve had many laughs over the predicaments she’s been in.

There’s not much written about hot flashes from a male’s point of view so… Here’s a list of ten scenarios I’ve witnessed over the years. Chuckle and enjoy, then share yours!

1. At the grocery store, you see a woman with her head stuck in the freezer. You think she must be serious about reading the box’s ingredient list.

Or

She might be having a hot flash.

2. When you’re outside on a beautiful day, you notice a grandmother snatch a freeze pop from her grandchild. You assume she must be concerned about the amount of sugar that child has consumed.
Or
She might be having a hot flash.

3. At the gym, you look over to see a woman open up her water bottle full throttle and let the water pour out of the corners of her mouth. You figure she must have been doing an intense routine.
Or
She might be having a hot flash.

4. Your wife rushes in the door and strips off all her clothes. You think, “Hey, I’m going to get lucky!”
Or
She might be having a hot flash.

5. During an important office meeting, you notice a female drops her pen on the floor. As she darts under the table with a washcloth in her hand you think she must have a germ phobia.
Or
She might be having a hot flash.

6. You awaken in the night and catch your wife with her hand in a cooler of ice near her side of the bed. You think, “She must have buried a midnight snack beneath that ice.”
Or
She might be having a hot flash.

7. The woman driver ahead of you is swerving in and out of her lane while flailing her arms. You say, “I think that lady’s drunk!”
Or
She might be having a hot flash.

8. You’re driving along on a cold winter day. Your wife suddenly rolls down her window. You think, “There must be a spider in the car.”
Or
She might be having a hot flash.

9. In a hardware store, you see a woman testing out an industrial fan blowing on high, you think, “She must have water in her basement.”
Or
She might be having a hot flash.

10. Your wife has water glasses placed strategically throughout the house. You think, “She must be getting ready to water the plants.”
Or
She might be having a hot flash.

So men, never judge that menopausal woman you see who may be acting a bit strangely. She just might be having a hot flash.

James would love for you to share you favorite  hot flash moments on his Blog. He’s aiming for a list of 100!

 

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Go Coconuts This Holiday Season!

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Enjoy this guest post from down under authored by fabulous health blogger Justine Vari. I personally love coconut oil and not just because I live in Hawaii. I knew it was healthy but now I know why!

The benefits of using coconut oil for cooking (and you may lose a few kilos on the side)

If you are looking to try something different in the kitchen, give coconut oil a go!  It’s great to cook with because it has excellent flavour, a stable chemical structure and many health benefits.

The coconut tree or palm has been referred to as the Tree of Life in many tropical countries because of its ability to heal many common ailments, from influenza and high cholesterol to diabetes and obesity.  Coconut oil’s anti-viral properties have been known to provide relief for HIV patients and people suffering from herpes, and its anti-bacterial properties ease throat infections and candida. Also, the saturated fats in coconut oil are supportive of kidney function and maintaining thyroid function, which helps to prevent symptoms of hypothyroidism such as tiredness and weight gain.

Coconut oil is the highest source of saturated fats and contains the most medium-chain fats in any vegetarian food source.  Lauric acid makes up 50% of coconut oil and is essential in maintaining the body’s immune system.  The only other source of lauric acid that can compare to coconut oil is breast milk.  Other components of coconut oil include myristic acid, which is used by the body to stabilise proteins used in the immune system, and anti- viral capric acid.

Coconut Oil

Despite the propaganda from the last few decades, including both saturated and unsaturated fat in your diet is essential for health and can promote weight loss.  The ‘bad’ fat that you need to watch out for is trans-fatty acids, which is a refined form of fat that has been altered by hydrogenation.  This process changes the structure of liquid vegetable oils to make them solid at room temperature, like shortening for cooking and margarine.  Trans fats are damaging in two ways – they raise the levels of bad LDL, which increase the risk of heart disease, and decrease the levels of protective HDL cholesterol.

Coconut oil is beneficial to health because its fats provide an important energy source for the body and helps to maintain the structure and fluidity of cell membranes.  Short and medium chain fatty acids have a lower caloric value and are easily broken down by the body for absorption.  Because of this accessibility to energy, it raises the metabolism of the body and provides a sense of satiety after eating.

Fats also facilitate the absorption of various vitamins and minerals such as calcium and magnesium, and help regulate blood sugar levels to fight diabetes.  Coconut oil’s anti-inflammatory properties are great for arthritis and it also contains antioxidants that protect the body from oxidative stress.

Because of coconut oil’s high saturated fat content, it has a stable chemical composition and is resistant to high heats and will only oxidise at 177⁰C, making it great for cooking.  Coconut oil is easy to digest and soothes stomach and digestive problems such as irritable bowel syndrome.  Replace your regular oil with coconut oil when cooking stir fries, meat and baked goods.

Coconut oil is also great as a moisturiser for the skin and hair and has been used medicinally for burns and constipation.

Justine Vari is an enthusiastic researcher and writer of health and fitness, with a keen interest in whole foods and optimum nutrition. She hopes to one day be a part of the movement that eradicates lifestyle-related diseases. For more posts from Justine please visit http://www.health.com.au/blog.

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Om For The Holidays: Mindfulness, Menopause, and More


As the holiday season approaches, my shoulders climb up to my ears in anticipatory stress. This year, however, I broke out of my usual pattern. Dewitt and I signed up for a weeklong yoga retreat taught by the incomparable Donna Martin.

As the time of the seminar came nearer, we wondered if we really had time to indulge ourselves. It seemed like we just had too much to do.

Luckily, we’ve lived long enough to recognize this for the trap it is and we got as much done as we could prior to our first meeting.

Our week was full of reminders to be mindful, to savor the present moment, to nourish ourselves. And speaking of nourishment, Hui Hoolana retreat center fed us an amazing feast on Thanksgiving Day.

Gratitude fills me now and I am flowing into the holidays. Dewitt’s favorite mantra for himself “I have so little to do and so much time” actually seems liveable as an attitudinal change.

And if I get caught up in doing, hurrying, stressing? I’ll just remember to nourish myself be it with yoga, quiet time, taking a walk. Oh, and breathing. Lots and lots of breathing.

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Celebrate The Dance of Menopause

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Menopause can be a difficult transition sometimes. It can also be a freeing, amazing time for growth and celebration. There’s plenty of info on symptoms, remedies, and coping methods. Not so much on the wonders of this passage. How can we highlight the great part of Menopause? Two inspiring women are hoping to do just that by starting hot flash mobs.

I seriously love the flash mob craze, where people seemingly spontaneously burst into a choreographed dance in a public venue. My all time favorite is Patrick Makuakane’s hula troupe dancing in the aisles on a Hawaiian airlines flight. Though I dance hula, I never saw myself in such a circumstance. Until now.

In celebration of Menopause, Dr. Eve Agee and Jeanette DePatie are organizing “hot flash mobs” this September, which not so coincidentally is National Menopause awareness month. I’ll let them tell you more about it:

The Hot Flash Mob Movement

The Hot Flash Mob is a worldwide, synchronized dance movement being kicked off in the month of September to honor National Menopause Awareness Month. Hot Flash Mobs are happening in New York, LA, San Francisco, Arkansas and the UK and are forming all over the place.

The Hot Flash Mob movement celebrates the grace, beauty and strength of peri-menopausal and menopausal women as well as the power that women derive from helping and supporting one another. Choreographed to a super-fun, hot Latin beat, the Hot Flash Mob is danced around the world by men and women of all ages, shapes, backgrounds, sizes and abilities.

Frustrated by the negative and fear-mongering approach to peri-menopause and menopause often observed in today’s society medical anthropologist Dr. Eve Agee and certified fitness trainer Jeanette DePatie (A.K.A. The Fat Chick) created the Hot Flash Mobs as a way for women to come together and find ways to make the menopausal transition easier as well as connect to this rich time in women’s lives.

Peri-menopause and menopause certainly can be difficult transitions for women, but they don’t have to be.  In many traditional cultures, women do not have all the symptoms and problems that are so typical in the West. In many of these societies, menopause is anticipated as a time of deep wisdom and renewed creativity in a woman’s life and is regarded as a time for women to get together to support and share with one other.

The Hot Flash Mob Movement was created as a way for women around the world to get together, shake our collective groove things, support one another, and show the world that menopause doesn’t have to be an ending, but rather can serve as a beginning to a new time of joy, insight and creativity.

Please sign up at www.thehotflashmob.com to watch the video to learn the easy and fun Menopause Mambo, receive updates about Hot Flash Mobs near you or to start your own and join us in announcing to the world, “I’m menopausal (or peri-menopausal), and baby, I’m Hot!.”

So ladies, get your dancing shoes on (tennis shoes will do fine) and get hot to steppin’. Be sure to have your hot flash mob captured on video and send a link to Eve and Jeanette. Our annual Goddess gathering takes place at the end of September, so we are soon going to be learning our steps. (I watched the Menopause Mambo instructional video – it is easy. Whew.) And here it is:

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Menopause and Osteoporosis: An Unfortunate Match

Meriel Anderson shares information and hope for menopausal bone health in this guest blog post. There are steps we can take right now to ensure stronger, healthier bones. Enjoy.

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If you’re a woman that is approaching or has reached menopause, you may have begun to wonder about the changes going on inside of your body, both in your reproductive organs and elsewhere. One area that is currently well-known is that the hormonal changes induced by menopause can affect the strength and composition of a woman’s bone structure. These changes are believed to be one of the main causes – or perhaps the chief cause – of osteoporosis, which is a reduction in the density of bones leading to increased risk of fractures.

Let’s take a quick look at menopause and osteoporosis, including signs to watch out for, current drug therapies and some preventive measures one can start immediately.

What we Know: Hormonal Changes Accelerate Bone Loss
As mentioned above, it’s well known that the loss of hormones due to menopause – especially estrogens – can cause bone weakness. This is due to a number of reasons, but mainly because the cells that create new bone cells – known as osteoblasts – see a reduction in their workload when estrogen levels decrease. As the osteoblasts are not working as hard, bone density tends to decrease over time which leads to more fragile bone structures.

One common misconception about osteoporosis is that there are signs or symptoms that one can watch out for – but this is for the most part untrue. Women generally learn that they have osteoporosis when they suffer a bone fracture due to something that normally wouldn’t cause a break; these situations are known as “fragility fractures”. If you find that you’re suffering from constant pain in an area where it might be due to a bone fracture, be sure to consult a doctor immediately.

Therapeutic Options: Hormone Replacement and Bisphosphonates
If you are a post-menopausal woman you’ve probably already had the talk with your physician about hormone replacement therapy and why it can be effective for women who have reached menopause.

Bisphosphonates – such as Alendronate (brand name Fosamax) or Risedronate (Actonel) are the current gold standard for osteoporosis prevention and are prescribed to post-menopausal women on a regular basis. These drugs work by blocking the natural breakdown of bone cells by osteoclasts, which are the cells responsible for bone cell turnover. Current medical evidence shows that these drugs are very effective for most individuals over the first 3-5 years, with some questions remaining about effectiveness beyond this point. Regardless, it’s likely you will hear about bisphosphonates if you speak to your doctor about osteoporosis prevention.

It’s also worth mentioning that a diet high in calcium and regular exposure to the sun so the body can generate sufficient vitamin D have also been proven to help reduce the risk of osteoporotic fractures; evidence is, however, inconclusive in regards to calcium supplements so it would be wise to consult your physician before supplementing your diet with calcium tablets or capsules.

Non-Drug Measures that May Help
While HRT and bisphosphonate therapies have proven to be beneficial for post-menopausal women who are at risk of osteoporosis, there are also a number of non-drug measures that are recommended to maintain healthy bones and prevent injury, including:

Regular Exercise Unfortunately you’ll hear this mantra until the day you leave this Earth: regular exercise is the most important step one can take in keeping themselves healthy. It’s not necessary to train for a marathon race or to be lifting gigantic barbells in the gym – even a half-hour walk on a daily basis will do wonders for your health. (Of course, consult your physician before undergoing any new exercise program!)

Joint, Back and Other Braces Braces, hip protectors and posture supports are an important tool in preventing fractures due to osteoporosis. A good brace can help support the weight being placed on a joint or bone structure, ensuring that the bone suffers as little stress as possible . Note that a brace or other supportive material should be fitted by a doctor, pharmacist or a medical expert who can provide assistance with selecting the correct device and size.

Fall Prevention Falls are a significant cause of injury in those with osteoporosis, and for this reason most doctors recommend stringent measures to prevent injuries due to falls. These types of treatments will range from assistive devices like canes or walkers to home alterations, such as railings in the bathtub.

If you believe that you may be starting to experience the effects of osteoporosis, or you have yet to see your doctor to have a talk about menopause and bone density changes, you may want to make an appointment soon. Waiting until an arm or another bone breaks due to bone loss is too late; it’s best to tackle osteoporosis head-on to maintain as healthy a body as possible.

Meriel Anderson is a natural health expert and a blogger who has written a number of articles about menopause treatment and how to manage the physiological changes that come with menopause. She thanks you for taking the time to read her post and wishes you the best of health!

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Hair We Go Again: Menopause Hair Loss Revisited

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Well ladies, I have been using Avacor (active ingredient minoxidil – as in Rogaine) and I hate to get too excited, but I do think I see new little hairs at my temple (where I have the most thinning.) I will continue using it and keep you all posted.

And my new friends at Avacor ( who gave me the free trial) are now partnering with Menopause Goddess Blog to provide a 40% discount on Avacor Physician’s formulation for Women.  Visit avacor.com and enter this coupon code: WTOP40 to get your discount.

As most of you know, I freaked out completely when I noticed my hair thinning dramatically – yet another of the unwelcome gifts of the Big M. My former dermatologist was all but useless, as was my laissez faire hairdresser who laconically told me that it was likely hormonal. Well, geez. There’s a news flash. What I wanted to hear was how I could FIX it.

Luckily, I met Luna the hair magician and she gave my hair (and me) some much needed advice, love and care. After 4 years, I still use Nioxin shampoo and conditioner – and feel like it helped stop the loss. I dutifully ingested my thyroid medicine, had my hair layered and professionally highlighted, and used styling products to increase volume. (Faves are ISO’s Bouncy Creme, KMS Curlup, and now Avacor’s Boost.)

What is almost as thrilling to me as the cessation of hair fallout is the active conversation about female hair loss now taking place just about everywhere. Check out Vibrant Nation ( one of my favorite women-of-a-certain-age-growing sites.) They have a free hair loss guide which has some great suggestions in it. (Except maybe for the one about “finding the cause” because the more I learn about this, the more I find it is multifactorial and completely individual. The “what to do about it” info is better.

Avacor recently posted this blog entry about Menopause and hair loss – worth reading. And for those who missed it,  check out Menopause Goddess Blog’s previous forays into this hair raising topic:  Menopause Shocker: Things Got Hairy, Then They Didn’t , Thin Is In, Or Honey, Who Took My Hair , and As Goddess As It Gets, Good Hair Days Are Back.

So many of us equate femininity with our hair. We expected to lose our periods, our tight buns, even our sanity with the advent of Menopause.  But we never expected to lose our hair. Thankfully, with a little attention and some new products, good hair days may still grace our present and our future.

 

 

 

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SURVIVOR – MENOPAUSE

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Some days, it can feel like living in a bizarre reality show as we slog through menopause. Can’t you just hear the little announcer in your head with the commercial:

Announcing a new season of SURVIVOR – MENOPAUSE, the reality TV show where contestants (all female) are forced to participate.

This is the most difficult and harrowing SURVIVOR to date. New challenges await participants around the corner of every new day. Flaming ‘flashes’ of heat, palpitations, drenched sheets (and not with passion), lost libido, dry everything, palpitating hearts, emotional tilt-a-whirls, bone-crushing fatigue, and a host of other horrific hurdles have become part of midlife womens’ daily life.

The only way to keep from flipping out during a stay on this midlife island is to LAUGH and commiserate with our ‘team’ of sister goddesses. (Because the kicker is – you can’t be voted off the show.)

So be a winner! Make alliances. The only way to really win is together. Start your own Menopause Goddess  group now! (For help with this, check out previous posts that tell you just how to do that “Creating A Menopause Goddess Group, Part I” and “Creating A Menopause Goddess Group, Part II”.

SURVIVOR – MENOPAUSE – coming soon to every woman eventually. Stay tuned.

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Menopause Will Scare You Sometimes

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Anxiety may literally be the most unnerving of the emotional traumas visited upon menopausal women; certainly it’s one of the least recognized or discussed. A number of goddesses struggling with this frightening symptom have written me recently, so let’s address and demystify it.

First and most important, anxiety that comes out of nowhere when you enter perimenopause and menopause is NORMAL! Not every woman will suffer it, but those who do can take heart that it is just another in the panoply of maladies that accompany our transition. Second, it is TEMPORARY! It will get better. Most women I know have anxiety issues that last 6 months to 2 years. (If you’ve just started having anxiety episodes, you may be screaming inside “Two years! I can’t take two more years of this!”) Oh yes, you can. And you will. And there’s help.

The biggest help we found was the discovery that we were not alone. Other midlife women, who previously had never suffered from anxiety and fear, found them selves terrified driving on the freeway or over bridges, petrified for no reason on a daily basis, even experiencing full-blown panic attics in the absence of any recognizable threat.

The Venuses don’t really know of any ingestible remedies that decrease the anxiety of menopause per se. (OK, maybe wine, but it can also make it worse sometimes.) Yes, there are some herbal anti-anxiety supplements but we felt we just didn’t know enough about them. Kava kava, for example, relieves anxiety but may damage our liver. (Although that may be dose related – Fijians have been using it for decades on a daily basis – they seem to have a decent life span.) As always, when trying something like this, let your health care partner/practitioner know and monitor your symptoms and dosage carefully. If your MD is not acting as a partner, but as a parent or ultimate authority, find one who will work with you. I can tell you as a health care practitioner myself that the amount we DO NOT KNOW about menopause and many of the complementary therapies would fill a library. Or two.

While you may consult your health care practitioner/partner about your anxiety, be wary of pharmaceutical intervention as a first answer. Tranquilizers and other drugs such as Prozac may be helpful, but may cause other problems or adverse effects. Remember, we’re women. We can handle a lot. We do every day. As long as we know it’s NORMAL and TEMPORARY.

As a group, the Venuses’ fretting was rarely overwhelming, but it was scary and disturbing. If it had been worse, we likely would have seen therapists. (Differentiation note: If you are frightened and jittery, that’s normal. If you cannot leave the house because of fear, or are unable to conduct activities of daily living, that’s not normal and professional help is needed.)

We did practice giving ourselves and each other little “reality checks” when our worrying was excessively annoying. We practiced asking, “What is happening right now, this moment?” (Usually the answer was “Nothing.”) “Am I safe, alive, comfortable, etc?” Then we took deep breaths and decided not to panic until we had something to actually panic about, rather than a mental litany of “what ifs”. This actually helped ease our jitters quite a bit, although some days our practice worked better than others.

Above all, be gentle with yourself. Give your fear a name. Invite it in for tea. Recognize it as another part of this roller coaster ride we call Menopause – remember right after the scary climb up, anticipating the drop, comes the thrill of a great ride. Let’s do it together – it’s easier to share both the fear and the fun.

(Stay tuned for a future blog entry regarding the Night Terrors, a nocturnal flavor of anxiety.)

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