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Oh Libido, Where Art Thou?

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Hi there Goddesses. I just got back from a long, glorious trip down the Colorado River through the Grand Canyon. And yes, there were a number of menopausal goddesses on the trip. You can imagine that the conversation turned to the Big M, now and again. We all fared wonderfully on our trip with Grand Canyon Dories. A big shout out to my webmaster, Bill, who posted the blogs in my absence, and graced us with his photos.

Upon returning home, I jumped right into our annual Menopause Goddess gathering – and we all agree that it was the best one yet. I’ll be debriefing in further blog posts – just have to digest it all. One of our perennial topics is libido or the lack thereof. Many of us who see the worst of menopause in our rear view mirror find that our libido returned. Somewhat. I have to say that unbridled lust seems to be a thing of the past. If Brad Pitt showed up naked at the front door, well, I’d definitely take pix, but otherwise? Too much trouble. Just sayin’…

Naturally, we want to be intimate with our spouses or significant others. That’s part of a life we’ve built together. Still, we may long (together) for the days when libido ruled.

That’s why I just LOVE Celia Ramsay’s music video “Lament”. Check it out:

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Celebrate The Dance of Menopause

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Menopause can be a difficult transition sometimes. It can also be a freeing, amazing time for growth and celebration. There’s plenty of info on symptoms, remedies, and coping methods. Not so much on the wonders of this passage. How can we highlight the great part of Menopause? Two inspiring women are hoping to do just that by starting hot flash mobs.

I seriously love the flash mob craze, where people seemingly spontaneously burst into a choreographed dance in a public venue. My all time favorite is Patrick Makuakane’s hula troupe dancing in the aisles on a Hawaiian airlines flight. Though I dance hula, I never saw myself in such a circumstance. Until now.

In celebration of Menopause, Dr. Eve Agee and Jeanette DePatie are organizing “hot flash mobs” this September, which not so coincidentally is National Menopause awareness month. I’ll let them tell you more about it:

The Hot Flash Mob Movement

The Hot Flash Mob is a worldwide, synchronized dance movement being kicked off in the month of September to honor National Menopause Awareness Month. Hot Flash Mobs are happening in New York, LA, San Francisco, Arkansas and the UK and are forming all over the place.

The Hot Flash Mob movement celebrates the grace, beauty and strength of peri-menopausal and menopausal women as well as the power that women derive from helping and supporting one another. Choreographed to a super-fun, hot Latin beat, the Hot Flash Mob is danced around the world by men and women of all ages, shapes, backgrounds, sizes and abilities.

Frustrated by the negative and fear-mongering approach to peri-menopause and menopause often observed in today’s society medical anthropologist Dr. Eve Agee and certified fitness trainer Jeanette DePatie (A.K.A. The Fat Chick) created the Hot Flash Mobs as a way for women to come together and find ways to make the menopausal transition easier as well as connect to this rich time in women’s lives.

Peri-menopause and menopause certainly can be difficult transitions for women, but they don’t have to be.  In many traditional cultures, women do not have all the symptoms and problems that are so typical in the West. In many of these societies, menopause is anticipated as a time of deep wisdom and renewed creativity in a woman’s life and is regarded as a time for women to get together to support and share with one other.

The Hot Flash Mob Movement was created as a way for women around the world to get together, shake our collective groove things, support one another, and show the world that menopause doesn’t have to be an ending, but rather can serve as a beginning to a new time of joy, insight and creativity.

Please sign up at www.thehotflashmob.com to watch the video to learn the easy and fun Menopause Mambo, receive updates about Hot Flash Mobs near you or to start your own and join us in announcing to the world, “I’m menopausal (or peri-menopausal), and baby, I’m Hot!.”

So ladies, get your dancing shoes on (tennis shoes will do fine) and get hot to steppin’. Be sure to have your hot flash mob captured on video and send a link to Eve and Jeanette. Our annual Goddess gathering takes place at the end of September, so we are soon going to be learning our steps. (I watched the Menopause Mambo instructional video – it is easy. Whew.) And here it is:

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Menopause Mailbag: Readers Q & A

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Menopause Goddess Blog gets voluminous amounts of mail – while we have tried to answer everyone, sometimes it just isn’t possible. So we will endeavor to pick out pertinent letters and answer them right here on the blog. Likely, lots of our goddess sisters out there are asking the same questions.

Q: Losing my ovaries
I’m starting radiation for cervical cancer and even though they spared my ovaries during my hysterectomy I will lose them with radiation. I don’t know where to begin about menopause. I just turned 43 Saturday.

A: Whew. That is a lot to deal with. It’s helpful to remember that some women have very few, if any symptoms with menopause. Let us hope you are one of them. However, if symptoms should show up: hot flashes, insomnia, thinning hair, mood changes - then tackling them as they appear can be your best option. If/as a symptom appears, type it in the search box here on Menopause Goddess Blog for more detailed information on alleviating it. (Write us if you have any trouble finding info.)

The other recommendation I have for you is to visit hystersisters.com. This site is chock full of information and support post hysterectomy. We wish you rapid healing and an easy Pause. And we are always here if need be.

Q: Bleeding for 6 months
I have been bleeding since Feb 13, 2012. I have been to the doctor and had a d&c . She put me on a med that would stop the bleeding. Started the meds after 3 days it stopped. I took my last dose on a tuesday,but come Friday it started up again. I have been to 2 doctors. Im so tired of dealing with this. I started going through menopause around 6-7 yrs ago. Im 51. Yes i have been tested 4 times to make sure. PLEASE HELP ME!

A: First of all, heavy bleeding can be a normal variant. (See previous blog entry: Heavy or Prolonged Bleeding in Menopause – Dangerous or Normal?  That said, if this is driving you crazy on a day to day basis, you might want to ask your MD about endometrial ablation, a newer technique for eradicating heavy bleeding. Here’s more info on the procedure from an interview we did with a menopause specialist: Perimenopause Q & A With Whitney Pollock MD

During my own perimenopause, I bled heavily for a year and a half, 3 weeks out of every month. I had a couple of ultrasounds and ultimately an endometrial biopsy to rule out something more serious than menopausal heavy bleeding. All were normal, so I opted to do nothing – except eat lots of red meat and take iron to avoid anemia. It finally stopped and I was none the worse for wear.

I will add that I had to search for a physician who did not immediately want to do D&C and/or hysterectomy.  As a nurse, I will always opt for the least interventional option with the least side effects. For any condition. But I would be lying if I said it was easy. It was messy, uncomfortable, and I ruined a bunch of clothes. Plus I felt like I was either bleeding or PMSing or both. So I likely wasn’t a lot of fun to be around sometimes. (Husband rolling eyes in background here.)

Let us know how it goes and what you decide. And we can’t stress enough how important it is to have support from your girlfriends.

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The Forgotten Five: The Worst Menopause Symptoms You Never Heard About

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A few weeks, ago I was contacted by a producer from a new television show scheduled to air this fall and specifically geared to women. They’re planning to do a full hour on menopause (Yes, I know, we could use a full week or a year but who has the time?)

At any rate, the producer wanted recommendations for specific topics. I called and emailed but somehow we never connected. So it’s a mystery what might be those topics.

Here’s my hope, though. I hope that this program will break new ground – and cover some of the menopausal symptoms, problems, and heartaches that we never discuss in articles or interviews.

The Big Five topics that we always seem to hear about are these:

1. Hot flashes and night sweats.
2. Loss of sex drive
3. Depression and anger
4. Hormone replacement therapy: pros and cons; bioidentical vs synthetic
5. Natural remedies.

These are important issues and it’s wonderful that they have been addressed. Still, the topics about which Menopause Goddess Blog gets the most correspondence consist of another Five: the Forgotten Five. And there is more angst and desperation about each of these life altering manifestations than we hear about the aforementioned Big Five combined. It’s time to bring them out into the open.

The Forgotten Five: The Worst Menopause Symptoms You Never Heard About

1. Brain Fog This isn’t simply a memory problem. Our very ability to think, problem solve, and process information is compromised. It feels like we are literally losing our minds. And we don’t know if we will ever get them back. It is quite literally terrifying. Which brings us to:

2. Anxiety
Whether we suddenly suffer from the night terrors, generalized anxiousness, or a sense of impending doom, anxiety can pervade our everyday life during perimenopause and menopause. Worse, those of us who have rarely been scared or jittery may suddenly worry about almost everything. Again, causing us to doubt our very sanity.

3. Hair Loss Women often associate hair with femininity. I know I did. So when my hair began thinning and falling out, I was panicked. And so many of our Menopause Goddess sisters have suffered the same condition. Dermatologists and hairdressers often tell us “It’s just hormonal.” Which is about as helpful as saying that Hurricane Katrina was “just a weather phenomenon.”

4. Fatigue A bone crushing fatigue can overtake you during perimenopause and menopause. I don’t know why – perhaps Changing on a molecular level (that’s how it feels) takes a lot out of us. Whatever the reason, it is a normal, common, miserable part of the menopause experience for many women.

5. Immune Dysfunction While menopause is a normal transition for a woman, it seems to take a toll. This may be the time that a woman has her first outbreak of Shingles (a herpes infection related to chicken pox). Or an illness comes out of nowhere like Rheumatoid Arthritis or a serious infection. (Half of our Menopause Goddess Group, a very healthy, active subset had this happen to them.)

So perhaps this new TV show will cover more than the Big Five when they air the menopause hour. Ideally, they’ll address some or all of the Forgotten Five. I certainly hope so. Now that would be a show worth watching!

So yes, I’ll e-mail a link to this blog entry to the producer and maybe, just maybe, we won’t cover the same ground again and again that’s already been covered.

(Even if the show doesn’t expand on these topics, we will. Right here. Stay tuned for ideas and help – women sharing wisdom, that’s what we are about.)

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Menopause and Osteoporosis: An Unfortunate Match

Meriel Anderson shares information and hope for menopausal bone health in this guest blog post. There are steps we can take right now to ensure stronger, healthier bones. Enjoy.

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If you’re a woman that is approaching or has reached menopause, you may have begun to wonder about the changes going on inside of your body, both in your reproductive organs and elsewhere. One area that is currently well-known is that the hormonal changes induced by menopause can affect the strength and composition of a woman’s bone structure. These changes are believed to be one of the main causes – or perhaps the chief cause – of osteoporosis, which is a reduction in the density of bones leading to increased risk of fractures.

Let’s take a quick look at menopause and osteoporosis, including signs to watch out for, current drug therapies and some preventive measures one can start immediately.

What we Know: Hormonal Changes Accelerate Bone Loss
As mentioned above, it’s well known that the loss of hormones due to menopause – especially estrogens – can cause bone weakness. This is due to a number of reasons, but mainly because the cells that create new bone cells – known as osteoblasts – see a reduction in their workload when estrogen levels decrease. As the osteoblasts are not working as hard, bone density tends to decrease over time which leads to more fragile bone structures.

One common misconception about osteoporosis is that there are signs or symptoms that one can watch out for – but this is for the most part untrue. Women generally learn that they have osteoporosis when they suffer a bone fracture due to something that normally wouldn’t cause a break; these situations are known as “fragility fractures”. If you find that you’re suffering from constant pain in an area where it might be due to a bone fracture, be sure to consult a doctor immediately.

Therapeutic Options: Hormone Replacement and Bisphosphonates
If you are a post-menopausal woman you’ve probably already had the talk with your physician about hormone replacement therapy and why it can be effective for women who have reached menopause.

Bisphosphonates – such as Alendronate (brand name Fosamax) or Risedronate (Actonel) are the current gold standard for osteoporosis prevention and are prescribed to post-menopausal women on a regular basis. These drugs work by blocking the natural breakdown of bone cells by osteoclasts, which are the cells responsible for bone cell turnover. Current medical evidence shows that these drugs are very effective for most individuals over the first 3-5 years, with some questions remaining about effectiveness beyond this point. Regardless, it’s likely you will hear about bisphosphonates if you speak to your doctor about osteoporosis prevention.

It’s also worth mentioning that a diet high in calcium and regular exposure to the sun so the body can generate sufficient vitamin D have also been proven to help reduce the risk of osteoporotic fractures; evidence is, however, inconclusive in regards to calcium supplements so it would be wise to consult your physician before supplementing your diet with calcium tablets or capsules.

Non-Drug Measures that May Help
While HRT and bisphosphonate therapies have proven to be beneficial for post-menopausal women who are at risk of osteoporosis, there are also a number of non-drug measures that are recommended to maintain healthy bones and prevent injury, including:

Regular Exercise Unfortunately you’ll hear this mantra until the day you leave this Earth: regular exercise is the most important step one can take in keeping themselves healthy. It’s not necessary to train for a marathon race or to be lifting gigantic barbells in the gym – even a half-hour walk on a daily basis will do wonders for your health. (Of course, consult your physician before undergoing any new exercise program!)

Joint, Back and Other Braces Braces, hip protectors and posture supports are an important tool in preventing fractures due to osteoporosis. A good brace can help support the weight being placed on a joint or bone structure, ensuring that the bone suffers as little stress as possible . Note that a brace or other supportive material should be fitted by a doctor, pharmacist or a medical expert who can provide assistance with selecting the correct device and size.

Fall Prevention Falls are a significant cause of injury in those with osteoporosis, and for this reason most doctors recommend stringent measures to prevent injuries due to falls. These types of treatments will range from assistive devices like canes or walkers to home alterations, such as railings in the bathtub.

If you believe that you may be starting to experience the effects of osteoporosis, or you have yet to see your doctor to have a talk about menopause and bone density changes, you may want to make an appointment soon. Waiting until an arm or another bone breaks due to bone loss is too late; it’s best to tackle osteoporosis head-on to maintain as healthy a body as possible.

Meriel Anderson is a natural health expert and a blogger who has written a number of articles about menopause treatment and how to manage the physiological changes that come with menopause. She thanks you for taking the time to read her post and wishes you the best of health!

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Bacterial Vaginosis During Menopause

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This week’s guest post also focuses on vaginal health. Written by Patrick Ross, this offering addresses an uncomfortable difficulty that can arise during Menopause.

Bacterial Vaginosis During Menopause
The menopause is a difficult time for a woman. Contracting an embarrassing intimate condition during an already difficult period could make it very difficult.

What is Bacterial vaginosis? 
Bacterial vaginosis is a condition that occurs when the walls of the vagina become inflamed due to the overgrowth of bacteria. Women can develop this condition at any age, but menopause is one of the many risk factors that makes a woman more susceptible to developing this condition. The hormonal changes that women go through during this period can lead to a pH imbalance. If the pH balance in the vagina is disturbed, bacteria will begin to grow rapidly.



What are some of the symptoms of bacterial vaginosis?


Light vaginal bleeding, foul-smelling discharge, painful intercourse and vaginal irritation are some of the symptoms that may accompany this condition. The symptoms of bacterial vaginosis can easily be confused with a yeast infection or sexually-transmitted disease, which is why this condition is sometimes difficult to diagnose.



What happens if bacterial vaginosis is left untreated?


Bacterial vaginosis can result in serious complications if it is left untreated. Women who have this condition are more likely to develop sexually-transmitted diseases, such as Chlamydia, Gonorrhea or HIV. Some menopausal women may need to have a hysterectomy and bacterial vaginosis can increase a woman’s risk of developing complications from the procedure.



Additionally, bacterial vaginosis can also ruin a woman’s confidence. Menopause is supposed to be a time where a woman’s life changes for the better because she no longer has to worry about menstrual cycles or pregnancy. The symptoms of bacterial vaginosis may make some women feel reluctant to even leave their home.



How can bacterial vaginosis be treated?


Fortunately, menopausal women do not have to suffer with bacterial vaginosis. Balance Activ is a clinically-tested and proven gel that has been shown to alleviate this condition. This product helps treat this condition by restoring the vagina’s normal pH level. Balance Activ also helps alleviate discomfort, discharge and the foul smell.



Balance Activ is very simple to use. All a woman has to do is insert the gel into her vagina using an applicator. Balance Activ is available over-the-counter or on commercial websites, such as Amazon.com.



When to consult a physician


Most women will be able to treat their bacterial vaginosis with the help of Balance Activ. However, there are some cases that need medical assistance. If a woman experiences discomfort, bleeding or worsening symptoms, she should not hesitate to consult with her physician.

Patrick is guest blogging for balance activ a BV treatment available in America on Amazon.com or through their website.

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Having A Healthy Sex Life After Menopause

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Loss of desire. Vaginal dryness. Painful intercourse. All of these Menopausal symptoms might seem like the beginning of the end of a vibrant sex life. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

I’m a big fan of vaginal lubricants (check out the Menopause Marketplace for a few recommendations.) Vaginal estrogen can also help (prescription required).  Now I’m delighted to highlight another great find: Replens Long-Lasting Feminine Moisturizer It’s not a lubricant and contains no estrogen. It is an actual moisture that replaces or enhances your own vaginal moisture. You can use it and it lasts 3-5 days.

Want to know more about regaining and reclaiming intimacy? Check out my video interview with Dr. Pepper Schwartz below.

Menopause Goddess Blog and Replens want you to Reconnect, Rekindle, and Rediscover your sexual intimacy. So for the first five women to “Like” Menopause Goddess Blog and Replens on Facebook, we’ll send you a free box of Replens.

Just click on the like button for Menopause Goddess Blog, on the right of this webpage under Follow Lynette, then go to www.facebook.com/replens and “like” their page. Lastly, send me an email to lynette@9points.com to let me know you’ve liked our 2 pages. I’ll contact the winners and get your contact info so your Replens can be sent. What could be easier?  You’ll be on your way to enjoying sex more.

BTW – Dr. Schwartz has a new book out titled Prime, Adventures and Advice on Sex, Love, and the Sensual Years. I’ll be reviewing it here one Menopause Goddess Blog. It’s my new beach read!

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Perimenopause or Menopause: How to Tell the Difference

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This guest post by Pam Andrews helps differentiate between these two phases of the Menopause journey with a focus on the less documented perimenopause phase. Enjoy.

Identify Perimenopause vs. Menopause Symptoms
By: Pam Andrews of PerimenopauseAnswers.com

There is a large quantity of literature, online and in print, devoted to the treatment for hot flashes, natural menopause treatment, medical treatment to counteract severe perimenopause symptoms, and supplements for perimenopause and menopause. But those things – remedies, supplements, exercise plans, diet plans, treatment plans, and symptoms – all depend on which stage of menstrual cycle you’re currently in. Perimenopause and menopause have differences in their symptoms and correspondingly on how to provide relief for those sets of symptoms.

As the baby boomer generation continues to grow older, more and more women need to know the importance of taking the right vitamin supplements and eating a balanced diet tailored for perimenopausal and menopausal women. Perimenopause or the stage of early menopause can start in as early as the age of 30. Thus, it is crucial for all women to get a head start on being educated and informed, so that they will know their bodies well enough. That way, when they feel the signs or the symptoms, then they will recognize exactly what those mean and they can take care of themselves better.

All in all, there are 34 perimenopause and early menopause symptoms. Most of these symptoms affect around 70% of women. Perimenopause, in particular, often begins when a woman hits her 40s. The symptoms of menopause normally last during the entire menopause transition or until the age of mid 50s, but there are some women who may experience a range of menopausal symptoms for the rest of their lives even after they have undergone menopause. We have heard about the most popular symptoms which consist of hot flashes, irregular periods, night sweats, vaginal dryness, and loss of libido. And there is also a host of other rare menopause symptoms which do not affect most women.

The common perimenopause symptoms are as follows: tenderness of the breasts, worsening of premenstrual syndrome, irregular periods, decrease in sex drive, discomfort during sexual intercourse due to the onset of vaginal dryness, fatigue, difficulty in sleeping, persistent mood swings, hot flashes, urinary incontinence and sometimes urine leakage when coughing or sneezing, gradual weight gain, dryness of hair and skin, and loss of bone density. On top of the perimenopause symptoms, the following are menopause-specific symptoms: depression, irritability, migraine headaches, joint and muscle aches, and palpitations or racing heart.

For more detailed and updated information about symptoms and natural remedies for dealing with perimenopause and menopause symptoms, visit PerimenopauseAnswers.com

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In Pursuit of Hormone Happiness? Read Shmirshky

Do you have a Shmirshky? Or are you one? If you are a woman experiencing perimenopause or Menopause, then the answer to both of these questions is a resounding yes, according to our sister Menopause Goddess Ellen Dolgen.

Like so many of us, Ellen was blindsided by the Change. How did she handle it? With humor, straight talk, and girlfriends. And a book called – wait for it – Shmirshky: The Pursuit of Hormone Happiness.

Under the pen name “E”, Ellen chronicles her journey through what she calls PM&M – something that she says sounds like much more fun than perimenopause and menopause. (So many things are much more fun: like root canals, plumbing leaks, flat tires – but I digress.)

If you are a midlife woman and think an alien has taken over your body or that you are going not-so-slowly crazy, then you need to read “Shmirshky”.  This hilarious and helpful tome will have convince you that you are not only NORMAL, but that you are not alone.

Laugh your way through “E”’s Big M adventures: from hot flashes to hormones, sleeplessness to sadness, helplessness to happy once again. I swear that she and I are twins separated at birth – laughter and sisterhood are two mainstays that will guarantee safe passage through the Menopause transition.

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Hair We Go Again: Menopause Hair Loss Revisited

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Well ladies, I have been using Avacor (active ingredient minoxidil – as in Rogaine) and I hate to get too excited, but I do think I see new little hairs at my temple (where I have the most thinning.) I will continue using it and keep you all posted.

And my new friends at Avacor ( who gave me the free trial) are now partnering with Menopause Goddess Blog to provide a 40% discount on Avacor Physician’s formulation for Women.  Visit avacor.com and enter this coupon code: WTOP40 to get your discount.

As most of you know, I freaked out completely when I noticed my hair thinning dramatically – yet another of the unwelcome gifts of the Big M. My former dermatologist was all but useless, as was my laissez faire hairdresser who laconically told me that it was likely hormonal. Well, geez. There’s a news flash. What I wanted to hear was how I could FIX it.

Luckily, I met Luna the hair magician and she gave my hair (and me) some much needed advice, love and care. After 4 years, I still use Nioxin shampoo and conditioner – and feel like it helped stop the loss. I dutifully ingested my thyroid medicine, had my hair layered and professionally highlighted, and used styling products to increase volume. (Faves are ISO’s Bouncy Creme, KMS Curlup, and now Avacor’s Boost.)

What is almost as thrilling to me as the cessation of hair fallout is the active conversation about female hair loss now taking place just about everywhere. Check out Vibrant Nation ( one of my favorite women-of-a-certain-age-growing sites.) They have a free hair loss guide which has some great suggestions in it. (Except maybe for the one about “finding the cause” because the more I learn about this, the more I find it is multifactorial and completely individual. The “what to do about it” info is better.

Avacor recently posted this blog entry about Menopause and hair loss – worth reading. And for those who missed it,  check out Menopause Goddess Blog’s previous forays into this hair raising topic:  Menopause Shocker: Things Got Hairy, Then They Didn’t , Thin Is In, Or Honey, Who Took My Hair , and As Goddess As It Gets, Good Hair Days Are Back.

So many of us equate femininity with our hair. We expected to lose our periods, our tight buns, even our sanity with the advent of Menopause.  But we never expected to lose our hair. Thankfully, with a little attention and some new products, good hair days may still grace our present and our future.

 

 

 

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