Just about the time that ‘miss’ became ‘ma’am’ and compliments took a backhanded turn, (gee, you look good…….for your age), Menopause burst through the door like an unwanted guest. As it turned out, big M had come for an extended stay.
She is not a low maintenance, easy-to-be-with visitor. On the contrary, she has been intrusive as hell. She fully disrupted my life and that of my spouse. The only good news? Her sisters were moving in with my girlfriends.
So a group of us would-be goddess girlfriends have bonded together, trying to find a way to deal with the new guest taking up residence in every facet of our lives. Meeting for the last 3+ years, we’ve laughed, cried, cursed, and celebrated. We needed sanctuary from the profusion and confusion of information flooding bookshelves, media, and the web. Wisdom is what we sought. Real women sharing experience, sister to trusted sister, has helped us make some sense of the changes, and allowed for an uneasy truce with Big M. And now we are reaching out to expand our community of midlife goddesses through this blog, because the most important thing we’ve learned is that WE CANNOT DO THIS ALONE! (Soon to come: a book of our adventures confronting not only menopause, but midlife and beyond. Stay tuned.)
Way to go Kauila!!!
We are experiencing bitter cold weather here with high winds….burrrr….
Someone said to me, god that wind is cold, I am freezing…. I replied, well, it feels good to me and the woman looked at me very puzzled…. waiting for me to explain…Well,
I said… I was having a person summer a while back that cold frigid wind felt like a godsent. 🙂
I was having breakfast with a friend a few weeks ago and we were discussing aging and life…… my stepmother had just passed … our kids are grown for the most part ..and all that stuff.. then we started laughing … Who knew the 50's were so really great…at some point the switch got flipped and all of a sudden you knew EXACTLY who you were Exactly what you wanted … and even better you knew you COULD do it…You did not need someone elses approval.. agreement …or permission… some how earlier in you life you did not have this resource as availabe…..available… to be who you really are and not need to apologise in any fashion…To own it all I would not trade The 50's for anything…..