One of my blogger friends, Kat, sent me this wonderful message. Like me, she doesn’t usually forward email missives, but this one moved her enough to pass it on. I don’t know who wrote it or where it originated, but it is a great message. And it speaks so eloquently to each of us menopausal goddesses, as we contemplate and move forward in the Second Act of our lives.
"The Daffodil Principle"
"Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, ‘Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over.’ I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead . ‘I will come next Tuesday’, I promised a little reluctantly on her third call.
Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and reluctantly I drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn’s house, I was welcomed by the joyful sounds of happy children. I delightedly hugged and greeted my grandchildren.
‘Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in these clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see badly enough to drive another inch!’
My daughter smiled calmly and said, ‘ We drive in this all the time, Mother.’
‘Well, you won’t get me back on the road until it clears, and then I’m heading for home!’ I assured her.
‘But first we’re going to see the daffodils. It’s just a few blocks,’ Carolyn said. ‘I’ll drive. I’m used to this.’
‘Carolyn,’ I said sternly, ‘Please turn around.’
‘It’s all right, Mother, I promise.You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience.’
After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand lettered sign with an arrow that read, ‘Daffodil Garden.’
We got out of the car, each took a child’s hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, as we turned a corner, I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight.
It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain peak and its surrounding slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, creamy white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron and butter yellow. Each different-colored variety was planted in large groups so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers.
‘Who did this?’ I asked Carolyn.
‘Just one woman,’ Carolyn answered. ‘She lives on the property. That’s her home.’ Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house, small and modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house.
On the patio, we saw a poster. ‘Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking’, was the headline.
The first answer was a simple one. ‘50,000 bulbs,’ it read.
The second answer was, ‘One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and one brain.’
The third answer was, ‘Began in 1958.’
For me, that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than forty years before, had begun, one bulb at a time, to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop. Planting one bulb at a time, year after year, this unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived.
One day at a time, she had created something of extraordinary magnificence, beauty, and inspiration. The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration.
That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time, often just one baby-step at a time and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world
‘It makes me sad in a way,’ I admitted to Carolyn. ‘ What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty five or forty years ago and had worked away at it ‘one bulb at a time’ through all those years? ‘Just think what I might have been able to achieve!’
My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way. ‘Start tomorrow,’ she said.
She was right. It’s so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson of celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, ‘How can I put this to use today?’
Use the Daffodil Principle. Stop waiting…..
Until your car or home is paid off
Until you get a new car or home
Until your kids leave the house
Until you go back to school
Until you finish school
Until you clean the house
Until you organize the garage
Until you clean off your desk
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married
Until you get a divorce
Until you have kids
Until the kids go to school
Until you retire
Until you die…
There is no better time than right now to be happy. Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
So work like you don’t need money. Love like you’ve never been hurt, and dance like no one’s watching.
If you want to brighten someone’s day, pass this on to someone special. I just did!
Wishing you a beautiful, daffodil day!
Don’t be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin."
Marsha Sinetar wrote a book many years ago called "Do What You Love, The Money Will Follow". Naturally, it was a best seller. But the title was chosen by the publisher. The title she wanted was "Do What You Love, The Riches Will Follow". And riches may or may not be money. In fact, for most of the people she interviewed in the book, they didn’t give up their day job. Yet they identified themselves by their avocation, even when it made no money, received no distribution, garnered no external acclaim.
Let’s face it, we need to do what we love right now. We don’t have unlimited time on this planet. We can’t wait for retirement – given the state of the economy, the Golden years will likely still be working years for many of us. We can take small sacred steps to our secret desire, our most heartfelt dream. Write that cookbook, paint those watercolors, plant that garden, sing that song, read those stacks of books. Do what you love NOW and the riches will be present right away – in the process as much as the outcome.
Marsha Sinetar’s book is still in print – check it out on Amazon.com.