Alright Goddesses. It’s time to put on your wise woman hat and place your fingers on the keyboard to share your thoughts and feelings about your "fertility". You have less than a week to get your answer in to us. To reprise:
Menopause Goddess Blog and Fertile Goddess (a yoga and active wear company) are bringing you a chance to answer that very question AND win some very cool stuff. Here’s the basic premise:
In nearly every culture of the world fertility means so much more than having children: abundance, wealth, new life and good fortune. Muse on how you are fertile now – then follow these 2 steps.
Step 1 – Visit www.fertilegoddess.com and choose the goddess that you most relate to at this time.
Step 2 – Come back to www.menopausegoddessblog.org and share with us how you are fertile now as well as your favorite goddess from fertile goddess.com. Just write it in the comments section.
Check out the cool prizes from Fertile Goddess that you can win:
1st prize: Flow pants
2nd prize: 3/4 Sleeve Tee ( choice of goddess)
3rd prize: Tote bag (choice of goddess)
You have until May 3 to share your thoughts. So put your wise woman hat on and your fingers on the keyboard. Women sharing wisdom – that’s how we ALL win.
By the way, you do not have to be perimenopausal or menopausal to enter – young goddesses in training are welcome to share their wisdom as well.
Read last week’s blog entry below for more details.
As a woman who never had children, (although I’ve been auntie to many), I never really doubted that I was fertile in many other ways. I ran a business and managed several employees. My decisions came from my "fertility". Later in life, I’ve become an artist. My creativity is a specific outgrowth of my fertility. But it wasnt’ until the other day, that I realized menopause had actually enhanced my "fertility" by giving me experiences that translate into wisdom.
On that day I received a very disturbing phone call. It was from a young friend that I had been very close to when he was in grade school and on in to high school. Like all young people, he got on with his life – married, joined the Army, and had a child. Over the years, it was only the rare phone call, here and there, that kept us in touch. So while he was living his young life, I went thru menopause. He called finally and seemed to have a lot of time to "just visit" (and as we all know, talking to a male is sometimes very much like pulling teeth.) Then he got to the meat of it. He listed all the losses he had recently had; he has an injured knee that he has had surgery on and it may not med completely. He suffers from short term memory loss from being in bombings from working in Iraq and, of course, is also suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome … Wow! He never once complained or even mentioned any of this thru out the years and he is on his second re-up in ther Army. So what do you say????? What can you say??????? So many losses. SAY?????
Then the wise woman in me spoke up from the perspective of her own losses. "A lot has been taken away from you, but you are still William. That has not been taken away and never will. You are still loving, funny, kind, etc. etc. Instead of thinking about all the things you can’t do, focus on the things you CAN do…… It will change how you do things and what things you will do. But life goes on and change comes with it and now you have a lot more in your life to do and experience. You have to go and concentrate on the things you CAN accomplish and those things that make you happy." It was a moving conversation.
Where did all this wisdom come from??????? I am a menopausal woman who with the help of her goddess friends has gone through this life change with a better quality of life and while that can never compare to the losses that my young friend has suffered as a young soldier, I realize that the skills I have learned can help my young friend. My new fertility has grown a new and deeper compassion for loss in all its forms.
So, which goddess do I relate to most right now? Kuan Shih Yin – the goddess of mercy and compassion, hearing and reaching out to those in need.
I must admit that I have ALWAYS been drawn to Athena. The gal rocks.
When musing over the term fertile, the image of dark rich soil comes to mind. One of my strongest memories was of my grandfather (a farmer) having me grasp a handful of such soil and as the grains slowly poured through my fingers, he talked to me of how all that grows depended on the soil and water. Water was consistant however, the richer the soil, the greater the potential for growth. And with that growth comes widespread benefits for the good of all.
One of the greatest joys I find during this phase of my life, is the freedom to let go of what others might think, what I "should" be doing and what is expected of me. In hindsight, living life as such, my path was very limited – as if I had blinders on.
It is through a freer way of thinking and doing that I find myself more fertile than ever. When I talk with younger women struggling through hardships we have all experienced in one form or another, I know that I can have a calming and reassuring voice. Spreading the seed if you will.
Dar Willimas wrote a terrific and inspiring song called, "You’re Aging Well." Throughout the song, the voices of wise women are congratulating a women that has broken free of the restrictions life has put upon her and now, with her new freedom she hears a symphony of music, speaks freely and feels lifting joy. She then becomes one of the voices for other women and joins in the growth of those to come.
It is through such a manner that I know I am the most fertile I have ever been.
I related to Benzaiten immediately, bec/ I have always been a fierce protector. I am the eldest of 10 children and this has always been my role. I am also a nurturer and took the greatest pleasure in being a mother, but the dragon slayer comes first. I grew up in the desert and so always felt an affinity w/ water, and ached for the ocean through my first 18 years. I now live in a wonderful area, 15 mi from the sea. I’m not always eloquent, except when I write. I still nurture people as a nurse practitioner, and I’m trying to become more like Quan Yin and Lakshmi, and Yoga is my favorite spiritual practice. But I can’t change too much after 56 yrs. Thank you for helping me see myself as still fertile!!
Menopause goddesses are most definately fertile. My definition of fertile surrounds ideas and solutions to pressing problems. Being around menopausal women, it’s unbelievable the number of women talking about and starting companies, creating new products, starting foundations etc. My personal personal experience with this fertility was creating a non-profit to provide women information about midlife health solutions.
In your 2os/30s your clock may be ticking to give birth to a child. At midlife your clock is ticking to give back to the world.