If you’ve been reading this blog for any length of time, you know that the Menopause Goddesses believe that the most important remedy, help, and solution for any part of the Menopause journey is girlfriends. Sisters, other women, help us by laughing with us, crying with us, showing tough love and profound compassion. No one understands you the way your sisters do. For that reason, we advocate starting your own Menopause Goddess Group (or call it Aging Gracefully Group or Second Adulthood Group or what have you.) Sister goddess and fine art photographer Theresa Airey shared this piece with me to pass on to you all. We don’t know who wrote it.
Even if you’ve seen it before, it bears repeating. All the good things do. Enjoy.
A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.
“Don’t forget your sisters,” she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. “They’ll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then, and do things with them.”
“Remember that ‘sisters’ means ALL the women…your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. You’ll need other women. Women always do.”
“What a funny piece of advice!” the young woman thought. “Haven’t I just gotten married? Haven’t I just joined the couple-world? I’m now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!”
But she listened to her mother. She kept contact with her sisters and made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her mother really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, sisters are the mainstays of her life.
After more than 50 years of living in this world, here is what I’ve learned:
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don’t do what they’re supposed to.
Colleagues forget favors.
Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.
When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley’s rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley’s end.
Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you…or come in and carry you out.
Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family all bless our life!
The world wouldn’t be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.