Why We Need Our Sisters

Sisters in the Lake © lynette sheppard

Sisters in the Lake © lynette sheppard

If you’ve been reading this blog for any length of time, you know that the Menopause Goddesses believe that the most important remedy, help, and solution for any part of the Menopause journey is girlfriends. Sisters, other women, help us by laughing with us, crying with us, showing tough love and profound compassion. No one understands you the way your sisters do. For that reason, we advocate starting your own Menopause Goddess Group (or call it Aging Gracefully Group or Second Adulthood Group or what have you.) Sister goddess and fine art photographer Theresa Airey shared this piece with me to pass on to you all. We don’t know who wrote it.

Even if you’ve seen it before, it bears repeating. All the good things do. Enjoy.

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

“Don’t forget your sisters,” she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. “They’ll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then, and do things with them.”

“Remember that ‘sisters’ means ALL the women…your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. You’ll need other women. Women always do.”

“What a funny piece of advice!” the young woman thought. “Haven’t I just gotten married? Haven’t I just joined the couple-world? I’m now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!”

But she listened to her mother. She kept contact with her sisters and made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her mother really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, sisters are the mainstays of her life.

After more than 50 years of living in this world, here is what I’ve learned:

Time passes.

Life happens.

Distance separates.

Children grow up.

Jobs come and go.

Love waxes and wanes.

Men don’t do what they’re supposed to.

Hearts break.

Parents die.

Colleagues forget favors.

Careers end.


Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley’s rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening  on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley’s end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you…or come in and carry you out.

Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family all bless our life!

The world wouldn’t be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.


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4 Responses to Why We Need Our Sisters

  1. jenn March 7, 2014 at 7:57 am #

    very true, I wouldn’t have made it through menopause with any sense of humour without my Women’s Circle. I recently started a Menopause Sharing Circle at our local library, because women find even with their friends and family, not everyone wants to talk about things they are going through.

  2. LynetteSh March 9, 2014 at 1:38 pm #

    That is so true, Jennifer! And likely why the Menopause Goddesses have been meeting for the last 11 years – of course some of us are through the worst of the Big M, yet we are exploring Aging Gracefully and our Second Adulthood. BTW, enjoying your book very much! (Review here next week!)

  3. jenn March 9, 2014 at 3:39 pm #

    I am aging gracefully (I hope) and through 2nd Adolescence. Maybe 2nd adulthood is next! turning 60 this year….glad you are enjoying the book and look forward to reading the review. thanks:)

  4. LynetteSh March 9, 2014 at 4:04 pm #

    I turn 59 in July. In our goddess group, we have women from age 45 to mid 60’s. A range of experience and experiences. We are so much more together than the sum of our separate parts. As I’m sure you have found with your women’s group.